Saturday, May 1, 2010

After reading various articles, here is a compilation of brief quotes from mothers whom I strongly connect with. I swear it's like they are reading my mind.

"But then once you are a mom, there isn’t a clear road map in terms of how to be and who to be anymore, and as with the creation of any new path, the dilemma you must surmount is the fear. Right off the bat, the fear knocks you off your feet and you can’t function--you can barely express your breast milk — and you’re just kind of reeling. What I needed most was to have help getting rid of the fear, which, of course, I soon realized would go away once I got knowledge.

Knowledge is power; fear is the enemy — and what I learned was that you are not a different person when you become a mother, you’re just better, you’re deeper, you’re more vulnerable to heartbreak of loving someone more than yourself. And there’s no question in my mind that being a mother has made me a better journalist and a better human being. All of us are faced with the same problem of not having enough time, of feeling guilty while wondering if we can still be good at work while being so physically knocked out that we’re just down sitting on our bottoms wondering if we can get back up. What helped me was coming to the conclusion that if I do a good job at work and can provide for my children, they are going to grow up knowing that I made a difference — and that they can too.

I wish now that I had exercised more, but I never gave myself a chance, I wish I’d taken care of myself more, taken care of my friendships — so many things I dropped the ball on. Being a mother can make you forget who you are. Try to stay connected to yourself and your old life as much as possible, and remind yourself what a great job you’re doing!

Having a baby will challenge you more than you thought possible. I don’t see it as taking away your old life, but enhancing a new one. As I fell in love with my babies, that deep rush of bonding became the greatest roller coaster ride of my life." -Ann


"Every new parent goes through the immediate phase of being overwhelmed—not having the slightest idea if they're doing the right or wrong things, no matter how much preparation or how many baby books you read. I remember walking in the door with Josh and thinking, Now what? The answer: He starts to cry and pretty much tells me every two hours, "I'm hungry, I'm hungry again, now I have a poopy, okay, hungry again."

I was never more exhausted in my life than in those first two weeks. I was thinking this is what medical students must feel like when they pull all-nighters. You’re just not eating as much as you should, you’re not doing what you should for yourself, and the baby is feeding around the clock. It’s just really tough.

Yes, the first three months are wonderful and sweet and precious, but it's also a grueling, very trying time with no sleep and this all-consuming little human being who needs your every ounce of attention. I remember counting the hours till my husband would get home from work to at least give me an hour to shower and feel human again. That said, you quickly forget about the hard times and cherish all the kisses and snuggles and "I love you’s" when your baby gets older!" -Natalie


"The first time I had to take the baby out, by myself, I dealt with as if I was transporting a ticking time bomb. Did I have enough diapers? What would happen if the baby got sick, or threw up? How can I prepare? When will I stop being intimidated? All those worries whirl through your head, but in the end you’re pretty amazed that you can basically cope with everything. " -Matt

Read more:http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/30034093/ns/today-mothers_day_guide/?pg=10#tdy_090406_MommyhoodMyths#ixzz0mfXinx1g